Japanese dating blacks
Not to say that’s true for every foreign guy here but you do see a lot more couples made up of Japanese girls and non-Japanese guys around.
Chiara: With foreign guys it’s easier to figure them out I think.
Rebecca: I think because of the language and cultural barrier often conversations can be quite superficial – this or that recommendation of what to do in Japan, or do you like this Japanese food etc.
So it’s hard to get into a more deep conversation and to get to know each other.
Even my boyfriend who is pretty confident had to wait for a friend of mine to set-up a dinner where we could meet before he could work up the courage to ask me out. Christa: Yeah I went on this one date and the guy spent most of the time on his phone and it was really awkward.
But after they said goodbye and he messaged her saying he wanted to see her again so there’s obviously some kind of cultural dislocate there.
Anthony: I’ve heard so many stories like that where people go on dates and it’s a weird, awkward situation but then later they message you as if it was the best date ever. I feel that Japanese men scare quite easily and as a foreigner you won’t know exactly what it was that freaked them out.
Rebecca: Yeah I don’t know any of my Japanese girlfriends who would directly approach a guy.
Christa: It seems to be through organized group events like ‘gokon’.